See? It's that ';I want to let him down gently'; bullshit that ALWAYS makes it worse.
Jesus Christ, just give it to him straight so he can recover and move on. You crazy chicks have NO CLUE as to how much pain your little games cause, all because you want to feed some needy chasm in your soul that makes you think you are being kind and considerate.
For the love of God, stop with the ';we can be friends'; and the ';it's not you, it's me'; crap. For Christ sake just tell him like it is and let him recover, he'll be in great shape a hell of a lot faster the less you actually try to think things through and control the process.How do you break up with someone gently?
Act kinda like a wife.You know,be a pouty ol' shrew that doesn't like anything he ever does and everything he does is wrong.And bring up constantly everything he ever did that was wrong.That way he'll break up with you,which is what you wanted anyway.Also it will be good practice for you for the future if you ever get married.OKOK.Don't thumbdown or tase me,bro.Just adding a little humor,but I think the answer is to make it look like it was his idea.His ego gets stroked,you're out of the relationship and everyone's happy.Regards,BK
the phone makes it easier, you can have all that you would like to say right there in front of you. (Say to him, i have a problem. this may disturb you, We cannot see each other in this way any more. don't let him ask, its just not working 4 me, i appreciate your interest but you deserve the same i don't have it %26amp; its killing me because i know i will only hurt u more if we continue.)
after that just do what you said, the hurt he will feel is nutting if compared to the hurt he will get if you don't and certainly not the pain your going through.
I really wish it was different but I'm just not into you the way I should be. You're a great person and you deserve someone who cares about you as much as you care about them. You didn't do anything wrong. It's not your fault and I hope we can still be friends.
You probably won't end up being friends, it's usually too hard, but at least let him know you don't hate him or anything.
The its not you its me approach is so cliche and old.
Depending on how into your he is there may be no gentle way to break up. Just be honest, but not brutally honest.
Its not working for me, I think we should move on, then be firm if he wants you to reconsider or..cries.
Tell him he is a great guy and that the right woman is out there for him but it isn't you. He will be sad but probably deep down knows its mutual. Probably find his perfect girl in a few months and invite you to the wedding.
just tell him exactly what you wrote here. (its not working and the longer you wait, the more it will hurt)
honesty in a relationship is important, even (or especially) at the end. good luck!
Just lay it on the table, straightforward and honest.
He'll probably cry. He'll probably beg and plead.
Better sooner than later, and let him know you didn't intend to hurt him but it's just not working.
Honesty works.
Break-ups hurt. it's a fact of life. Don't stay in a relationship just because you're afraid of hurting someone. Be honest and say it's not anything he did or can change. It's just the way you feel.
Guys always want to know it straight and would rather know the truth that being let down gently
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tell him exactly how you feel and why its not working. tell him you still want him in your life just more as a friend than anything else
just tell him honestly that you no longer wish to be his gf.
';It's not you, it's me.'; It always works.
JUST BE LIKE '; IM NOT FEELIN YU N E MORE.'; I NEED SOME SPACE. TIME 4 UH CHANGE
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