How do you break up with someone that you love?

I'm in a relationship that I need to get out of. I somehow got mixed up with someone who is amazing, intelligent, FUNNY, very good looking, and someone who I respect a lot. The only problem is that we both know it's not going anywhere. He's significantly older than me and involved in another relationship. We both know that we're not the one for eachother and we constantly try to break up, but it will only last about a day because we don't want it to end.... Help please. No judgmental crap please.How do you break up with someone that you love?
if you guys BOTH know then it shouldn't be so hard.How do you break up with someone that you love?
I'm so sorry your stuck in this situation! Ugh, girls have it uh??





Well, I'd suggest you talk to him face to face thats for sure


Let him know everything you just told in this question...but say it more like ';I feel like we are....'; or ';I think we're not going anywhere, and I dont know what to do';


Also try to lead him to agreeing w/ you on your reasonings rather than him just getting angry or just breaking it off w/ you too because of you...TRY TRY TRY to make it mutual...that way, you can get back w/ him if you ever wanted to...you never know in life!
I just broke up after 3yrs+ and the key to remember all the reasons you don't work. Try not to see him for as long as you can. First it might just be a day then it might be a week. Don't call him. It's harsh but slowly but surely it is the only way.





I usually go over my girlfriends house when I miss him and forget for a little while. Also, he has another relationship so he doesn't put you first





Best wishes.
You're going to get lots of judgemental crap. Shame on you for being involved in a man with another relatinship, being the other woman never feels good. he dosent' like you enough to break it off with the other woman? tsk tsk.





anyway, i'd start out with getting rid of EVERYTHING that you had to do with him, delete his number, block it even. throw away everything, don't accept calls, look the other way whenever he tries to contact you. if you let him get his foot in the door, you'll just start all over again.





be strong.
That´s a tough one. I had a similar situation myself and was not easy. We just talked it over and agreed we were going through some situations that were not helping the relationship, so that the best thing was to give it a break and if things got better we could reconsider coming back together. Good luck!!
When you realize that sex outside of marriage is wrong it's easy to get out of any relationship. If it isn't right it isn't worth pursuing. If God isn't in the equation then there is no hope for happiness or any real lasting love. Save yourself for the only one who matters, then you will find your true love.
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Its not gonna happen, because you keeping going back.
Well... id try to tell him that you know it isn't working out as well as you would like and think it would be better if you took a break. maybe you'll get back together and things will move...who knows =/ but its best to talk to each other about it.
Ok....For one you are not ';breaking up'; because you are not in a relationship.Your just a side piece.


You say you love him......But i guess he's not leaving his wife for you anytime soon.So leave the guy alone and i'm sure you will solve your problem
this is wat i do if i want to break up with somebody i love i cut the person completly what i mean is that idont call or answer if he calls me


try to forget and dont think about him and try seeing some other people or make i newboyfriend





good luck
How about...... you and I both know this isn't going anywhere, and I want to find someone I am truly happy with. I care about you a lot and I hope that we can still keep in touch, but I'm not interested in being romantic with you?
If you are going to break-up then you need to make a clean break. You should cut all ties and contact at least for a while and give both of you time to get over each other.
The break up is inevitable and it's probably going to hit you when you least expect it. Like maybe when his ';other relationship'; finds out or when things get too complicated.
This is very hard and I'm not sure ther is a good answer for you.... I have a girlfriend that is 16yrs older than me and I really do understand. I think the best way is like a band aid.... Rip it off quick love.
ok im not judging but u say he is involved in another relationship?? y would u even be with him if hes with someone else? thats called cheating so if he is with someone else then um ya just say its over cuz i wouldnt take that crap
just end it


see you both know about it this problem so u both dont want it


so there tell him to break the knott


because your not going to hurt him oranthing because he wants the same too!!
well if he really will like you he will leave his other girl but just tell him that you dont want to be with him he has to understand
sounds like YOU don't want it to end.





so whenever you want it to end it will end.





break-ups are one-way streets.
I cant help you cause you want to be with this man so be with him and stop fooling yourself ok
say goodbye and dont look back.
you know what you need to do.
Talk to him about it then, just like how you just said that to us. And you guys are in love so why woul dyou?
say i think we need to see other people
move away and change ur number
really if the guy is significantly older than you are, then it's really his role to shut it down. Since you are younger and he is older, he is at the advantage the longer the relationship goes. You just tell him, it's over. We can't be anymore. I respect you as a friend. Shake hands, and tell him that it is what it is. Then, slowly walk to your car and say, ';i'll call you later'; and then be distant for a few weeks and spend time with your new man until your emotions set in. Let him know about the past and make him come with you each time you see your old man. That way, he knows who you're with and that it's officially over. You know? Don't separate yourself from your man for a long time until it's set and he is used to not getting what he wants out of you.
If he wanted just you~ he would not be in another relationship. Plain and simple. If a man is really in love~ he ONLY wants to be with that woman.


My husband is the biggest flirt in the world~ but I am the only one he loves~ i have NO DOUBT.


its how he only really wants to spend time with ME and not any of the other friends he jokes with~ that's why i never worry.





So to answer your question~ actually with a question~ if you know this is going no where...why do you want to keep going back...esp when hes got someone else?





Really think about this...whats it saying that you are worth....and what you are worth putting up with....just 1/2 a man...as that's all your getting.





I don't mean to sound mean, and im not judging you just trying to get you to see another perspective from outside the box...looking in.





Once you tell him its over~ change your phone numbers, and don't call him. Stay true to your word~ and in time you will meet someone who values YOU, all of you , and wants only you.