What is the best way to have someone break up with you?

How do you think you could handle a break up? What would ease the blow? How about if someone asked you to move out?





I need helpful tips on a smooth break up. My boyfriend lives with me and over the last couple of years I have been very tolerant but he continues to do things that he knows I don't approve of in my house. I don't want him to hate me so I'm asking everyone....how should I go about this? Honest answers only please.What is the best way to have someone break up with you?
You're kicking him out, and you don't want him to hate you? Hate to break it to you, but he will if you're going to toss him out on the street.





How about talking to him? Tell him, ';You've got x amount of time to clean up your act, and if there's no improvement, you're history.'; He at least gets a heads up that he's being a tool, and you don't have to feel bad when you do get rid of him because he had a fair chance, fair warning -- and I think that's what people want when they're dumped. They want advance notice that they're about to be history so they can clean up their act if they still want to be with you -- or save you the dirty work and just leave on their own accord if they don't.





EDIT: I'll leave that other stuff there in case it helps out someone else, but your situation is indeed different. Again, though, he's going to hate you, there's no way around that. Tell him, ';I've been tolerant, but you continue to do things I don't approve of. You have until the end of February to get out of my house.'; Give him a month, that's fair, since he may have to find his own place. If, at the end of the month he's not gone, wait until he leaves the house, change all the locks, pack up his stuff, and leave it on the porch.





I've actually had to kick out a guy before, and it wasn't pretty. I ended up packing up all his stuff though because he could care less about what he thought were silly threats that I'd never go through with. You have no legal right to keep his stuff and must return it to him, but there's no reason you can't change the locks (unless it's an apartment OR he's on the lease/mortgage) and get him ready to be gone.





I don't really think that anything is going to soften the blow, especially since you've tolerated his bad behavior for years. That's your mistake, but I can't blame you for trying. Just do it as swiftly and painlessly as possible. A guy like that doesn't deserve class, but keep it for as long as he's still around.What is the best way to have someone break up with you?
You are doing a right thing. It would be better if you did not live with your boyfriend unless you are married, but since you are not married, this transition will be easier. Talk to him. Give him time to move out, but tell him honestly that you do not want to be in this relationship anymore.





Is it your own house or are you renting? Have your thought that maybe you get a new place and you move out. Looks like you have good reasons to end this relationship
sit down with him and tell him what is bothering u and tell him that either he listens to what ur saying and stop or move out
He lives in your house yet he keeps breaking your rules after you warn him and give him more chances to improve?





It's like you are working for your boss but you keep messing-up not doing what he says. You know what eventually will happen.





His stay at your house was his to win or lose. He has chosen to lose it. I think the decision should take its course. How he reacts is his problem, not yours.





Who knows? This may become good medicine for him. It may teach him to listen and to respect the rules, boundaries, and feelings of others. If he keeps getting away with it, he won't learn this valuable lesson.





Right now it seems you are more concerned with his escalation of his temper and fear of possible violence than your tolerance of his breaking your rules. If this is the case, have people with you as you tell him that he has to leave, the deadline is Saturday (or whatever day is best), and that you mean it. Otherwise you and your friends will pack his stuff for him, put it at the front of the house, and he can come whenever he wants to and pick it up. LOL





It's not going to be easy especially for someone who simply takes you for granted. But there is no easy way to do this.





And remember to change the lock on your door. He can keep the keys as a souvenir of what he lost when he did have the keys to your heart. :)